Steps to Knighthood

For many years I've spoken of Chivalry and its place in todays society. But recently I've decided to update and revise my position. The days of being the sole provider or the one to hold doors and court has changed. I was challenged months ago with women's independence and Chivalry is designed directly to contest that. I do not believe nor condone this thought. I truly just want men to respect and honor women and not move so frivolously to another woman at the first challenge. So this lead me to think... of two points. Why do men move on? And why are there so many Challenges. Let's tackle the more taboo of the two. Why do men move on so easily? When did we become so accustomed to things being easy? It would be unwise to accredit this on fast women or immediate gains. I am going to take an unpopular stance on this topic. I truly believe we as men have become accustomed to these things because we aren't challenged as often as we should be. In both our professional and personal lives. We aren't challenged to prove our claims or support our beliefs as previous generations were. We can say what we want, and do what we want without much criticism or confrontation. Many will contest this. But if you truly reflect and think about many of your interactions, you will find that you aren't challenged, not nearly as much as our elders. Men will not challenge another man unless it is to obtain power of others or the attention of women. We as men unfortunately give the camaraderie of negligence to other men freely. We don't challenge each other to be better than our fathers. we have chosen the paths of least resistance. Trust me, I align and understand this complexities of this psyche. However this breeds complacency. We aren't learning or improving. We are losing innate abilities such as patience and charm. We enjoy quick pleasure instead of enduring a long courtship to find the greater victory of companionship and love. And we have developed insecurities such as; 'Does my woman really love me?'; 'Is she talking to other guys?; Will she leave me?' All credible insecurities, but they only have validity because of the lack of time we chose to develop and discover the answers for these self-destructive questions. Courtship is the opportunity to cultivate trust and nurture this love. We so quickly want a woman in our beds or to wear the badge of girlfriend, wife or Lover without having endured the wars and battles to earn these ranks. Men, we have to chose to be better. Better than our fathers, and our grandfathers. Admiration is only part of this journey. And not having a man in your life to raise you or teach you is not an excuse to ignore this. You should have more desire to fill that void for a woman, rather than exploit it. If a woman didn't have a father figure, and you see a fragile foundation, I promise you will have more power for being that pillar in her life. And NO, this doesn't mean be her father, or be her instructor. This means be her anchor, her platform, her platform. Be the solid ground that she can root and grow from. Your inner self will become so much more vibrant in learning to grow the forests of not only women, but humans this way. If a woman has never known a man to be faithful or truthful. You should take this as a direct challenge. The more that we stand firm and course correct these thoughts, the more harmonious we all will become. Now, in the thought of Challenges and how they are created. I have done quite a bit of reading and investigation into this thought. This has many different names; Baggage, Skeletons, even stigmas. One fact remains. This if anything should be an aligning moment for both parties. Everyone has baggage, men and women alike. Some of these challenges can arise unbeknownst of the other party. This is something that i still question and research. Only to find that we often place this baggage before we truly understand their place in our journey. I have been guilty of claiming a woman has baggage, only to discover that much of that baggage was rooted in an inner thought or worry of my own. Everything from was she abused?, Depressed to recently ended relationships. Now in my reflection, I believe many of these things stemmed from things I have had the unfortunate experience of. Upon discovery of some of these same experiences existing in the women of my attention, I realized the inveterate relationship developing. So what can we do to be more open and inclusive to baggage? Accept the baggage of your partner, combine and align, and carry it together. We as humans were designed to walk together. So when you find a partner, Whether it be a Man, a Woman, stand firm and face their baggage and fears. Be their grip, let them find their footing, and when you begin to wince and buckle, let them be your foothold. I hope that we all just chose to be happy and love everyone for who they are, and what experience they bring. E.L.E. = Everyone love everyone. It seems that this stream of consciousness has come to a trickle, and so I will end it with a quote i love from Ram Dass (Dr. Richard Alpert). “You are loved just for being who you are, just for existing. You don’t have to do anything to earn it. Your shortcomings, your lack of self-esteem, physical perfection, or social and economic success – none of that matters. No one can take this love away from you, and it will always be here.” -Ram Dass (Dr. Richard Alpert) With Love. Mr. Haymon

Those who love, wander.
Hoping to Find Pheromones
To bring Loved Ones home.

Sir Robin

Where did my mind go?

Where did my mind go? Where in my world did my mind go? I feel as though I'm losing track of where I was planning to go. And as much as I try, it seems that for the life of me I can't remember. How could I so easily have forgotten my dreams. There was a time when nobody could tell me nothing about  sing a strong man or having strong character and being an individual. I always had optimistic thoughts of reaching for the top. And now I seem to only be reaching for what's I front of me, only seeing things directly in front of me. Where did the visionary in me go? Where did the romantic in me go? Where did the artist in me go? I find myself pleasing the world and yet it is never yielded through my happiness. Why did the happiness...go?       I seem to begin and end my days in this destructive meditation. Destroying the temple my parents helped me build. How can I repair what I may very well have dismantled. I used to consider myself the leader of a lost ideal. The last solider of a wondrous empire. Lost in reality with a memories from a utopian dynasty. And then today I began to wonder...why?     Why do I feel alone? Some days I do long for a woman to help me out of these troubling thoughts, and yet I know this will not relieve my desire. Why do I feel alone? The. It hit me; where did my mind go? How did I lose track of the world I grew up dreaming of? Where did my soldiers go?there used to be a time when strong and weak men fought for ideals. They fought for our women. Too commonly do we blame women for falling victim to foolish and insignificant men. Excuse me, children. For I cannot fathom nor support a man who will mistreat a women.        I truly believe we are to blame. We are too willing to follow suit and spend money and drink and act like fools trying to "persuade" or entice women into our beds and into our hearts. We've lost focus of creating and building our utopia. A perfect situation for not only ourselves but our futures. Fear not, the cowardice of acquaintances that might look at you sourly for telling a woman how amazing she looks. How powerful you think she is. The pure inspiration she may give you to pray to god that he would strike you down if you ever disappoint her. *this is where the rant begins* i noticed today that a very important person in my life whether they know or it or. It made a post in there blog saying "love Ian love anymore, it just doesn't mean the same thing." this was as devastating as if mike Tyson had given me a good right hook. This was my wake up call. "where did my mind go?" I used to tell people that really impacted me that I loved them. And surely I've told this person this I the past. And as amazing as I and the world sees her I felt the heart aching truth of all women. They just don't FEEL the love anymore...     This posting is in hopes that you remember your first love, man or woman. And you remember how powerful you felt when they told you they Loved you. How long it took, how hard you worked and waited. Just remember to change the world. If a woman does not like a polite and clean cut gentleman. Then you continue to show her why she should. Don't lose hop/faith. As much as I've thought when people say the right will find you. This is true, even if a woman must spend the majority of their life finding you, she will. Just make sure you remain a gentleman. Don't disappoint her when she finally gets to you . Peace. Love. And Chivalry! -Mr. Haymon

I'm just a tall glass of..."Imagine"

I'm just a tall glass of..."Imagine"

Well, another few weeks down. And there are quite a few women in my
sights, however only one seems to have her wits about her. I love when
a women "teaches" me. Or can be witty. Now I have only met two with
this quality, and surprisingly they both have given me opportunity to
date...well court them. But I wouldn't have it any other way. I don't
want them to necessarily fall for me because of what I may have or
going for me. With these two women, I have just decided I will not fear
them. I was reading a quite on a friends page that said, (I'm
paraphrasing of course) "you must want something more than you fear
it!." This hit the bottom of my soul. It's not often that something
like that would give me Inspiration to write. So I've decided that I
won't be afraid of these two women, I won't even be nervous, I will
say and do anything in their presence without fear. Now I am taking
this advice literally to the letter. If I want to say something silly
a d outrageous I will. If I want to say something serious and
outrageous I will. I have often heard from women in my past that they
like or enjoy seeing me in my element. (lion...yea I'm a Leo). And I
realized that when I command or make a tiresome, relentless,
unmerciful, calculated strike....I always catch my prey. I guess you
could say my confidence is slowly finding means of reawakening. I am
beginning to wake up and start everyday with a smile and a compliment
to myself. This gives me the motivation to do whatever I see fit for
the day. Imagine what we all can achieve if we have 100% in ourselves.
Nothing would be able to stop us, hold us back or even deter our
mission of success. All you must do is truly believe yourself, corner
victory and pounce.

Burning bridges before benevolent buerecrats.

Burning bridges before benevolent bureaucrats.

Who says, you need to keep people connected for the sake of networking? Some people aren't even worth that. I am often reminded that my cheerful and accepting nature invites too many unsatisfactory
or unsuccessful people I to my life. I must learn to not only be
careful with the people I attract but also the people I already know.

Now I have been thinking. A lot about my most recent Facebook purges and
I have come to the conclusion that I have been going about it all
wrong. Instead of removing people I no longer or never speak with I
should be removing those I don't communicate with but also the ones I
see no benefit from. Whether it be monetary or emotionally. Why waste
the space, no two pieces of matter can occupy the same space. This
means a rotten apple, I.e. Undesired acquaintance, is squandering a
space for a potential ripened apple.

My point is merely this; we must learn to more properly appraise our
emotional real estate. We can't keep thinking everyone will always fit
into our Infrastructure. We must properly value or time and space. Only
then will we be able to properly cultivate and raise our self worth.

-Robin J. Haymon

Dive in to Defeat, Despair...Devolution

Do we ever truly know when it is time to kneel? Can we accept defeat in the midst of our true goals? Many will immediately take negative thoughts from the Idea of "give up." When we all forget that we as people constantly give in to many things throughout our day. So why should it be any different when it comes to our dreams. Sometimes it is not only wise, but very human to step back and re-analyze our attack. Defeat in the words of any man, will denote some level of success. Why is it we fear such an elementary principle? We are conditioned to never fail. To always push for success. What is missing in this teaching, is that failure is not only inevitable, but necessary. Success is to measured by the amount of failure. But i fear this measurement is used improperly. How many failures to a success only measures how quickly one managed to stray from instinctive reasoning.

The True Idea of Success can only be attributed to how many failures before the success. I fear we are evolving past this reasoning. When has anything good every been made from the first attempt? Countless attempts at every great invention of our cultures has always been vital. It gives us a since of progression. It reminds us of our humanity, in that we are truly mere men. How can we expect to find a Utopia in a perfect world? We must Build, test, Re-build, and retest until we find Such perfection. And when we find it, we will be left only the option of testing that Utopia, until it fails, so we can find a truer utopia.

The Moral is that we must not fear our defeats. Defeat truly and undoubtedly builds character. Don't lose hope if perfection isn't knocking on your door today. You must learn to entice Perfection. This deity is only mused by our sacrifice; Defeat is our only offering. Learn to devolve...simplify...

Chivalry: A Four Part Harmony

Ok, a good friend of mine asked me a few days ago to write something on the subject of Chivalry. Immediately I felt overwhelmed. I was filled with thoughts of, Could I really be such a big influence on the subject. Why would my input or rather my interpretation be more valid than any other. So Before I Could allow myself to say no, I seized the day and Agreed. Now I have been submerged in a sea full of information. Where do I start? And then as I asked my father how i would tackled such a request he responded, "Make it a harmony, build from the bottom. The Baritone Boogey!" And so.. This is where i Begin...

*The Baritone Boogey* (Foundation)

Let's start with a somewhat generalized retelling of it's History. As many know, Chivalry has one main point of reference that is easily noted by all. This point in history is known as the Middle Ages, Medieval Times. Knighthood is generally it's prime association. However, i would like to make this more broad, so that it may reach a bit further than that. I want it to be taken more personally.
The Idea of Chivalry is easiest understood as a code of ethics introduced by EVERY civilization from the dawn of time. This code is noted by the term and social station of The Gentry. The Gentry is an elevated class of persons who are so elevated because of either lineage, value to the social ruler (i.e. Monarch, President, Chief etc.), Or appointment by majority society (i.e. Statesman). Now the code between these groups would have to be something that required poise, respect, and a certain level dexterity. This in itself is the rough idea of Chivalry. Every religion, Career, and Government has a method that derives from this framework.
*Now There's your Baseline*

*Tenor: Let Me SET the Mood RIGHT*

Now, if you've read to this point, then you're probably wondering... "Yea..so?" But hear me out. Now were gonna just dive in, burn some highway...dig?

So what does this have to do with you? Well, let's modernize this ideal. Why is it so hard for our generation to adopt such an ideal? There will be many things said here. "I didn't grow up with a father to teach me..."," I didn't have a good mother", ". Now I am not the one to downplay or degenerate anyone or their story. However, it is my Duty as a Gentleman to bring these people back to a sense of reality. Excuses are only meant to justify something the general public has no care or desire for. Your background does not limit you in any aspect of your life. If you want to hurt, abuse, destroy and live for yourself. Then become an astronaut and kindly stay on the moon. The principle is simply How would you like to be treated? Rather How would you like your son, your daughter, your Hero to be treated. A gentleman is a Rational anomaly. Modern day Hero. But before I get too poetic. Just know that everyone has the capacity to be Civil, and in turn, Gentleman and Lady.

*Soprano- Fall in Love with the MELODY*

Now, imagine...A world were everyone is coagulating...well meshed...working in unison. A well oiled machine. This is what can make anything better. Being civil can immediately destroy any negativity presented in any situation. How many times have you gone to the store and the clerk violently drops your change on the counter and brushes you along. Instead of allowing that negativity to pass to you, Simply say "have a wonderful day ma'am/sir" That negative energy immediately turns positive and the day for everyone will improve.

Every women in the world promotes and boasts the death of chivalry. And Many men weep or agree in the midst of this heresy. So who will stand against this propaganda slurring the existence of Me and quite notably...YOU? Every man believes they ca change the world. I truly know and believe every man has the ability to change this thought. Why is there such an overwhelming desire for gang related, un educated, frivolous men? Flaunting their entire worth on their person? These desires are passed down by previous generations. The problem is not in the passing, but they never pass the warnings. So countless people follow these trends, and when they finally fall prey or victim to them, they blame the non-existence of a proper ideal. Fear not... nothing ever dies...so long as we believe.

*Alto*- Irrepressible Sound

Now, the sharp uncensored and merciless blade of truth. Chivalry is Unfortunately as it once was...DEAD. However as all things, it has risen as a phoenix, never to be as it once was. Chivalry is only the beginning to a new set of ethics, morals, and beliefs. We are constantly molding this idea into what will fit into the mold of our lives. Some will see a more classical mold, while others will have innovative and new ways of showing this. Instead of courting a spouse, we may forge a new ritual. But as all things, we must first embrace what has been set into history. We cannot erase the past, we can only stand as a contrast.

Live as a PILLAR of the EARTH...be outstanding in all that you may do, and if you fall because of it, you will only fall into the arms of adoration. We must learn as men AND women, to uphold remind, re-teach, redefine a custom that is marked as a staple in human existence.

Now I'm not saying to men that they should hold every door, bow to every women. Nor am I saying you will be just in all of your actions. I mean as benjamin franklin meant it; "Strive to be morally good." This means we must learn that our actions will be inflicted back onto us, we must be aware of how we dispose of our feelings, thoughts, and actions. It matters not if you have someone to tell you something is good or bad. We already socially what is right and wrong. Treat Your women with the respect you have for yourself, or that what you wish others to treat you. Women, i charge you with the same. Unity is Utopia.... Only together can we live in this Harmony...Chivalrously.