Steps to Knighthood

For many years I've spoken of Chivalry and its place in todays society. But recently I've decided to update and revise my position. The days of being the sole provider or the one to hold doors and court has changed. I was challenged months ago with women's independence and Chivalry is designed directly to contest that. I do not believe nor condone this thought. I truly just want men to respect and honor women and not move so frivolously to another woman at the first challenge. So this lead me to think... of two points. Why do men move on? And why are there so many Challenges. Let's tackle the more taboo of the two. Why do men move on so easily? When did we become so accustomed to things being easy? It would be unwise to accredit this on fast women or immediate gains. I am going to take an unpopular stance on this topic. I truly believe we as men have become accustomed to these things because we aren't challenged as often as we should be. In both our professional and personal lives. We aren't challenged to prove our claims or support our beliefs as previous generations were. We can say what we want, and do what we want without much criticism or confrontation. Many will contest this. But if you truly reflect and think about many of your interactions, you will find that you aren't challenged, not nearly as much as our elders. Men will not challenge another man unless it is to obtain power of others or the attention of women. We as men unfortunately give the camaraderie of negligence to other men freely. We don't challenge each other to be better than our fathers. we have chosen the paths of least resistance. Trust me, I align and understand this complexities of this psyche. However this breeds complacency. We aren't learning or improving. We are losing innate abilities such as patience and charm. We enjoy quick pleasure instead of enduring a long courtship to find the greater victory of companionship and love. And we have developed insecurities such as; 'Does my woman really love me?'; 'Is she talking to other guys?; Will she leave me?' All credible insecurities, but they only have validity because of the lack of time we chose to develop and discover the answers for these self-destructive questions. Courtship is the opportunity to cultivate trust and nurture this love. We so quickly want a woman in our beds or to wear the badge of girlfriend, wife or Lover without having endured the wars and battles to earn these ranks. Men, we have to chose to be better. Better than our fathers, and our grandfathers. Admiration is only part of this journey. And not having a man in your life to raise you or teach you is not an excuse to ignore this. You should have more desire to fill that void for a woman, rather than exploit it. If a woman didn't have a father figure, and you see a fragile foundation, I promise you will have more power for being that pillar in her life. And NO, this doesn't mean be her father, or be her instructor. This means be her anchor, her platform, her platform. Be the solid ground that she can root and grow from. Your inner self will become so much more vibrant in learning to grow the forests of not only women, but humans this way. If a woman has never known a man to be faithful or truthful. You should take this as a direct challenge. The more that we stand firm and course correct these thoughts, the more harmonious we all will become. Now, in the thought of Challenges and how they are created. I have done quite a bit of reading and investigation into this thought. This has many different names; Baggage, Skeletons, even stigmas. One fact remains. This if anything should be an aligning moment for both parties. Everyone has baggage, men and women alike. Some of these challenges can arise unbeknownst of the other party. This is something that i still question and research. Only to find that we often place this baggage before we truly understand their place in our journey. I have been guilty of claiming a woman has baggage, only to discover that much of that baggage was rooted in an inner thought or worry of my own. Everything from was she abused?, Depressed to recently ended relationships. Now in my reflection, I believe many of these things stemmed from things I have had the unfortunate experience of. Upon discovery of some of these same experiences existing in the women of my attention, I realized the inveterate relationship developing. So what can we do to be more open and inclusive to baggage? Accept the baggage of your partner, combine and align, and carry it together. We as humans were designed to walk together. So when you find a partner, Whether it be a Man, a Woman, stand firm and face their baggage and fears. Be their grip, let them find their footing, and when you begin to wince and buckle, let them be your foothold. I hope that we all just chose to be happy and love everyone for who they are, and what experience they bring. E.L.E. = Everyone love everyone. It seems that this stream of consciousness has come to a trickle, and so I will end it with a quote i love from Ram Dass (Dr. Richard Alpert). “You are loved just for being who you are, just for existing. You don’t have to do anything to earn it. Your shortcomings, your lack of self-esteem, physical perfection, or social and economic success – none of that matters. No one can take this love away from you, and it will always be here.” -Ram Dass (Dr. Richard Alpert) With Love. Mr. Haymon

Those who love, wander.
Hoping to Find Pheromones
To bring Loved Ones home.

Sir Robin